Thursday, December 19, 2013

Timely post for today.

You must love the Most High God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength and with all your mind. Luke 10:27 I came across this article today by Mark Gregston. It is well written and came on heels of my own daughter betraying my trust. Last evening she told me she had a ride to and from church for a bible study. I changed my plans accordingly and did not plan on picking her up. She contacted me 1 hour into it while I was already busy with something and told me I needed to pick her up. I told her I couldn't unless I dropped everything. She begged and begged and said she'd do anything. I told her I just want her to be respectful and loving at home. She said she would and promised and I dropped everything to pick her up. First thing this morning that trust was broken when she became disrespectful and back talked me because she couldn't find something. When i confronted her about it, she told me it was no big deal for me to pick her up and for me to get over it. And it got worse and it broke my trust. Now to read this article and try to rebuild and to never loose that connection with my daughter. Picking Up The Broken Pieces of Shattered Trust Written by Mark Gregston. Posted in Anger, parenting communications, parenting style, teen anger Picking Up The Broken Pieces of Shattered TrustTrust is a valuable and fragile commodity. In the economy of family relationships, trust is both given and received as parents and teens gingerly pass it back and forth. When these trust transactions are handled properly, relationships grow and thrive. But Mom and Dad—don’t hold on to that commodity too tightly, because your teenage son or daughter will break it. It’s really not a question of “if,” it’s a question of “when.” At some point, you’ll place your trust in the hands of your teenage child, and they’ll drop it and shatter it into pieces. I’m not just being dramatic here. After four decades of working with, talking and listening to teens and their parents, I know from experience that kids will make mistakes. Disappoint you. Maybe even break your heart. And this is regardless of temperament, personality, or even consequences. But if you’re prepared for having your trust broken, you’ll be miles of ahead of the parents who are still sitting there open-mouthed and shocked. So how do you prepare and deal with the disappointment coming your way? Keep the Relationship Here are the usual responses I hear from parents when their teen blows it— I can’t believe you didn’t know better! I thought we had a good relationship! I don’t know if I can ever trust you again! How could you do such a thing? You know better! I don’t know why you would disrespect me in this way. These types of phrases express your emotions in the moment, but can be misinterpreted by your teen. When a child breaks your trust, don’t let the mistake interfere with your relationship. When you tell your son, “I thought we were close,” what he hears is, “Our relationship is ruined.” In your daughter’s mind, saying “I’m so disappointed with you right now,” is interpreted to mean, “I can’t love you.” Of course, as adults, we realize that teens may read something into our words that we didn’t put there. But perception is nine-tenths of reality. And caught in the moment when his mistakes are being unearthed, a teen may hear your words of anger and hurt as an indicator that he’s lost some of your love and compassion. Always move towards your children, even when they have betrayed your trust. Explain clearly that there is nothing they could do to make you love them more, and nothing they could do to make you love them less. Don’t let their mistake impact the connection between you and your son or daughter. The best way to avoid this is to tell them openly—“I’m upset right now, but I want you to know, I love you. And nothing you can do will ever change that!” Acknowledge the Pain Just because you move toward your child when they break your trust, doesn’t mean you have to hide the pain. I get hurt by kids all the time. I’ve been lied too, stolen from, sworn at and used. I may put on a strong demeanor, but inside I’m crushed. There is no way to dull the pain when your teenager breaks your heart. So be disappointed. Be upset. Be angry, even. But talk to someone about what you’re experiencing. You can’t bottle up those emotions, and your child may not be able to handle hearing how they’ve injured you. Grab a spouse, a friend, a pastor or a counselor, and let them know, “what my child did really hurt me!” Get it out in the open and let those wounds heal in the clean air of a safe relationship. If you let your feelings fester inside you, the pain will build and you’ll slowly start resenting your teen for the mistakes they’ve made. Acknowledge the hurt and the frustration and deal with it, and you’ll have the emotional energy to return to your teen with love and grace. Set Up Your Beliefs Sometimes a child will break our trust without even knowing about it. It happens when we cling to unspoken rules or guidelines in the house, and expect our teens to instinctively understand them. Trust me; if that’s the way your home operates, you’ll find yourself disappointed over and over again. Even if your child is 17 and ready to leave home, I recommend setting up a belief system for your house. Sit down and clearly define and discuss the rules and expectations every person in the house must adhere to. That includes curfews, dating parameters, the kind of language spoken in the house, and the use of social media. Openly state what you believe about honesty, respect, compassion and having fun with the family. Once you’ve set up your specific belief system, follow up by explaining some pre-determined consequences that will come into effect should those rules be broken. This takes away the surprise when your teen strays out of bounds and has to deal with the results. Once household rules and beliefs are understood, the penalties won’t seem to come out of left field. The kids at Heartlight understand that the rules we have in place are for their own protection and the safety of others. They also understand the consequences of breaking those rules. I have to stifle a laugh when a kid comes up to me and says, “Well, I know I have yard cleanup duty this week.” “Why is that?” “Well, because I was disrespectful to some of the staff.” They may not like all the rules we have in place, but our teens don’t really complain about the results, because they knew ahead of time what was expected and what the consequences are should they go rogue. Allow Dreams to Be Crushed We all have hopes and aspirations for our children. No dad wants his daughter to be an unwed teen mother. No mom is hoping her son will spend some time in jail. Our dreams for our teens include visions of happy families, productive lives and meaningful careers. But sometimes when a teen breaks our trust, a dream may die. The goals we set for our son or daughter start to wither away. That’s a rather hopeless feeling, and it compounds the pain. But Mom and Dad, let me encourage you to let those dreams die. God has a plan for your teen, and it may be radically different than what you had in mind. I’ll always remember getting a call from my son telling me that he and his wife were getting a divorce due to an affair. My heart was crushed as I watched my son break not only my trust, but his wife’s as well. My dream for him was leveled in a few minutes on a brief phone call. But God redeemed my son, and now his ex-wife is married to a good man, my son is married to a lovely young lady, and I have some beautiful grandbabies to prove it! Here’s the point: God can take your broken trust and crushed dreams and transform them into something beyond your wildest expectations. Maybe the life you envisioned for your son or daughter is not coming to pass. That’s okay. God is still in control, and He’s not finished with you or your child yet. Let go of those aspirations, and find hope in what God is doing in your teen’s life. I wish I could give you practical steps to prevent your child from breaking your trust. But that is never going to happen. As parents, all we can do is prepare for and deal with mistakes as they happen; moving towards our children in the midst of the pain and allowing God to guide our future.

Tuesday, November 26, 2013

My dip mix is unsafe!

Wow Great News!

Peanut Allergy Study With Xolair: Impressive Results

A new pilot study testing “rapid” peanut desensitization has resulted in 92 percent of subjects being able to tolerate 160 to 400 times more peanut than they could at the study’s outset.
Published in the Journal of Allergy and Clinical Immunology, the study’s aim was to test whether combining the asthma drug omalizumab – known by the brand name Xolair – with controlled peanut exposures would speed up and/or improve the process of oral immunotherapy or OIT. In OIT, the patient consumes tiny, then increasing amounts of an allergen with the aim of becoming desensitized to it.
Though the study was small, the results were impressive. The 13 participants, all highly allergic to peanut, were pre-treated with Xolair for three months. Then, after just one day of OIT treatment, all of them were able to tolerate 992 mg of peanut flour. After an average of eight weeks, 12 out of 13 patients were able to tolerate 4,000 mg of peanut flour, or roughly 10 peanuts. At this point, treatment with Xolair stopped, but the subjects continued to eat 4,000 mg of peanut per day.
Six months later, they were all able to tolerate about 20 peanuts without reacting. Depending on the patient, this represented an increase of 160 to 400 times what they could tolerate when the study began.
By using the combination of Xolair and OIT, the patients were able to become desensitized much more rapidly than previous studies have shown. For example, a previous peanut desensitization study that didn’t use Xolair found that it took an average of 30 weeks for subjects to reach doses of 500 to 2,000 mg of peanut. With Xolair incorporated into the treatment method, not only was the amount of time required cut by more than half, but the amount of peanut tolerated was more than doubled.
Xolair works by preventing IgE antibodies (the antibodies involved in allergy) from attaching to mast cells in the body, which is an important step in the process that leads to allergic reaction. Xolair is typically used for allergic asthma.
However, there were some drawbacks to the treatment: 2 percent of peanut ingestions were associated with reactions. While most of these were mild and easily controlled with antihistamines, three patients had reactions that required epinephrine. However, considering how quickly the peanut doses were increased, and that the patients were a high-risk group to begin with, the study authors note that overall the reactions were “surprisingly mild”.
The next step for this research is to conduct a much larger study. If results are similar, this could represent a giant step forward towards a food allergy treatment.

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Peanut Allergy Forces Emergency Landing (Video)

As a parent of a 13 year old anaphylactic to peanuts this is my worst fear!  And we fly a lot.  You can't trust what the crew says at all.

Peanut Allergy Forces Emergency Landing (Video)


Tuesday, September 17, 2013

Allergy-Friendly Pad Thai | Allergic Living

Finally I can introduce my peanut allergic child to Thai food!  This is completely peanut and tree nut free!  I can't wait to make this!

Allergy-Friendly Pad Thai | Allergic Living

Disordered Mast Cells, and the Clues to Food Allergy | Allergic Living

Interesting article about a possible connection with food allergies to autism.  Will read more about this later.




Disordered Mast Cells, and the Clues to Food Allergy | Allergic Living

Friday, August 2, 2013

Be Aware: The Dangers of Food Allergy Bullying

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sue-scheff/be-aware-the-dangers-of-f_b_3689585.html

This is terrifying to think about.  My daughter could turn her back for one instant and someone could sneak something into her food or drink and next thing you know she'll be in anaphylactic shock.  We need to bring more awareness to this life-threatening food allergy so that teens are aware that their "prank" could result in a trip to the emergency room ~~ or worse.


Monday, July 29, 2013

Heartbreaking story of 13 year girl who died from peanut allergies


This story hits so close to home because my own is 13 years old and is also anaphylactic to peanuts and tree nuts.  This could have easily been my precious daughter.  My heart goes out to this family.
CARMICHAEL, Calif. - It was supposed to be the last day of a family vacation at a popular summer camp, but it ended in tragedy for one Sacramento-area family when a loved one had a fatal allergic reaction.
Relatives says 13-year-old Natalie Giorgi died from a severe allergic reaction to peanut butter while she was attending Camp Sacramento off Highway 50 in El Dorado County.
Now, the family says it really wants to get the message out about how dangerous and deadly food allergies can be.
Giorgi was very careful about what she ate and always made sure her food did not have nuts, according to family and friends.
But she had unknowingly eaten a Rice Krispies-type snack made with peanut butter.
On Friday night, the final night of camp, there was entertainment and refreshments. A dessert tray was put out in a dark area of the camp.
Giorgi reached for a treat and took a bite out of it. She knew something wasn't right, spit it out and told her mother, who also tasted the treat.
They later realized it contained peanut butter. Natalie felt fine for about 20 minutes, but then began vomiting, had trouble breathing and went into cardiac arrest.
3 epinephrine pens were used but they could not help save the girl, according a family friend.
Giorgi was taken to the hospital by ambulance where she was pronounced dead.
Family and friends are coming to terms with Giorgi's sudden death.
"She took every care. She knew the situation, that's (connected to) the allergy she had. And they were really on it all the time," said Pastor Michael Kiernan of Our Lady of the Assumption Church in Carmichael.
A special vigil was held at the church for Giorgi Sunday evening.
Some say they'll remember her smile and laughter. Others will remember how much she loved to draw and how much she loved her friends.
Her family said Giorgi wanted to become a neonatologist, to care for premature babies like her and her twin sister.
Meanwhile, family members extended their gratitude to the paramedics, firefighters and everyone who tried to help save Natalie.
They offered the following written statement:
"While our hearts are breaking over the tragic loss of our beautiful daughter Natalie, it is our hope that others can learn from this and realize that nut and food allergies are life threatening. Caution and care for those inflicted should always be supported and taken."
An allergist said food allergies and nut allergies have tripled in the past decade. He says more people need to understand the dangers of food allergies and that they can sometimes be fatal.
By Suzanne Phan, sphan@news10.net

Thursday, June 13, 2013

Is a coconut safe to eat for people allergic to tree nuts?


Q. I’ve read differing views on whether it would be safe for a nut-allergic person to eat baked goods with coconut or coconut oil. What’s your view on coconut?
Dr. Scott Sicherer: Despite its name, coconut is not actually a nut, but a fruit. Regardless, the Food and Drug Administration considers it a tree nut, which is why it’s included in U.S. labeling laws.
It is difficult to assess the risk of coconut allergy among those with tree-nut allergies because allergic individuals may become wary of coconut and avoid it. Still, coconut allergy appears rare, and uncommon even among those with tree-nut allergies.
In a national registry of 5,149 people with peanut or tree-nut allergies, only four self-reported an allergy to coconut. And a more recent study of 40 children with positive tests or known allergy to peanuts or tree nuts showed no increased risks for having positive tests or allergy to coconut.
Your allergist would consider your personal allergy history in deciding whether to add coconut to your diet or to perform any testing. However, be aware that tests are often positive to coconut in people who could actually tolerate it, so a physician-supervised feeding test may be necessary for a conclusive answer.
When it comes to coconut oil, there is almost no medical literature on allergic reactions to it, which may reflect the likelihood that the processed forms of coconut oil contain little or no protein, although this has not been studied. Still, for those with verified coconut allergy, avoidance of coconut oil should be considered because it may have residual protein.
Finally, it’s important to note that people with peanut or tree-nut allergies who choose to eat coconut must be diligent to avoid cross-contact with avoided tree nuts or peanut.
Dr. Scott Sicherer is Chief of the Division of Allergy and Immunology of the Jaffe Food Allergy Institute at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in New York. Together with Dr. Hemant Sharma, he writes “The Food Allergy Experts” column in the American Edition ofAllergic Living magazine. Questions submitted below will be considered for answer in the magazine.

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Friday, May 24, 2013

Interesting article about a peanut which is a legume.


This is interesting to me because my daughter is allergic to peanuts which are a legume but not to peas and beans.  What's up with that?  Why just peanuts the most deadly food allergy?

The most common legume allergy is to peanuts, but the legume family is broad and allergies can occur with other members of this family.
It’s important to know the symptoms of this allergy in case you or a member of your family is experiencing a health episode related to that food allergy.

What are legumes?

Peanuts, of course. Also peas, soy beans (tofu), beans and lentils can be the source of a legume allergy. Lupine, found in European flour products, can also provoke a reaction.

What does a mild reaction look like?

A mild reaction may present as an itchy feeling in the mouth, red blotching in the face and stomach cramping. The itching is a result of a histamine response typical of allergies. There may also be a reaction due to a missing critical enzyme necessary for proper digestion of peanuts and other legumes. This will cause the stomach distress.

How does that differ from a severe reaction?

A severe reaction might include vomiting, diarrhea and severe rash. This happens because the body is attacking the legume proteins as if they were a threat or toxin. The body is attempting to purge the offenders.
If this happens, get medical attention immediately. If the episode is extremely severe, anaphylactic shock could occur and this is a life-threatening event. Anaphylactic shock, or anaphylaxis, will include a tightening of the chest and difficulty breathing. There will be a rapid pulse, dizziness, fainting, swelling of the tongue and/or throat and a dramatic change in blood pressure.

Can legume allergies be cured or prevented?

The short answer is no. There is no cure for allergies. However, with diligence, dangerous reactions can be avoided. If you suspect an allergy, see your doctor about getting tested to find out for sure. Then you will know if you need to avoid legumes, and what type, in the future to protect your health.
For severe allergies, you may need to carry an epinephrine injector. While this may seem inconvenient, it is a life-saving device and can give you the confidence and freedom to enjoy life knowing you are prepared in case the worst happens.
Source: eHow, WebMD

Saturday, May 18, 2013

Another food item my daughter will have to cut from her diet because of cross contamination


Allergy Alert: Kellogg’s Nutri Grain Soft Bakes Contain Peanuts And Almond Flour

by ADMIN May 10, 2013
An alert reader who relies on Nutri Grain cereal bars as a safe peanut and nut free snack (as do I) recently alerted me to the fact that Nutri Grain now has a product that is not peanut or nut safe. They’re Nutri Grain Soft Bakes, and they contain peanuts and almond flour. A child was eating one in her son’s classroom, and thankfully she caught the problem before he opened it.
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I inquired of Kellogg’s as follows:  ”I recently noticed Nutri Grain Soft Bakes on the shelves here in Ontario, Canada, and I see that they contain peanuts and almond flour. Are they made in the same facility as the Cereal Bars? My son has a life-threatening allergy to both of those ingredients, so if there’s any risk of cross-contamination, that could be fatal. Would you please let me know?”
The first response I received from Kellogg’s Canadian customer service line was not adequate. I was told to trust them, since they label “may contain traces of peanut or nuts” when it’s appropriate. The customer service rep could not tell me under what circumstances Kellogg’s puts on that warning. I needed to know if they make the declaration when there’s a shared facility, when they’re made on different lines in the same area, or only when products are made on the same line. She had to follow up with her team leader and call me back.
When she did call back, I was told that Kellogg’s puts on a “may contain” warning when a product is made on a shared line that uses peanut or tree nuts. I was also advised that the Soft Bakes and cereal bars are made in different facilities: The soft bakes are made in London, Kentucky, and the cereal bars are made in Muncy, Pennsylvania.
Our choice is to continue to buy the cereal bars. Since products are labelled if they’re made on the same line, I’m happy with Kellogg’s allergen disclosure, and I will continue to rely on them as a brand I can trust.

Monday, May 13, 2013

This is a great book....check it out!

Book Launch of Katie French's "Eyes Every to the Sky," a sci-fi romance that will knock your socks off.  http://www.kimberlyshursen.com/#!katie-french/c14is

Sunday, May 5, 2013

What do the legendary Vince Lombardi and author Linda Lange have in common?  Their passion for the Green Bay Packers.  Find out more in an interview at http://www.kimberlyshursen.com/#!linda-lange/c12td

Friday, May 3, 2013

"Chinatown meets Patterson" says one of the five-star reviews about political thriller "Itsy Bitsy Spider" now available on kindle.  http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00CMFI7WE

Sunday, January 13, 2013

Interview with Massimo Marino

Check out this interview by Kimberly Shursen.  She interviewd Massimo Marino on his latest book!



http://www.kimberlyshursen.com/#!massimo-marino/c1v9x

Monday, January 7, 2013

Check out this Author Interview about Richard Sharp

www.kimberleyshursen.com


His multi-layered personality, combined with his  innate, God-given writing
                                                             talent, are 'wowing' readers who are begging for more. 

Read the full interview about Richard Clark on the link above.